SJW’s don’t get how social change works.
Social movements start because they want equality. Equality is achieved by getting as many people of the opposing side on your side as possible. How do you do this? You inform them of your cause, you invite them to any meetings your particular cause may hold, you show them that you’re just another person trying to live your life just as they are.
You don’t tell them to fuck off, you don’t tell them to “educate themselves”, you don’t shun them and treat them as if they don’t matter because in the end it’s going to be the majority that decides whether you get the rights you deserve or not, so in reality they do matter and you should be doing everything in your power to educate them on your cause.
Once you decide to stand for something you open yourself to questions and become a source of information. You saying you support this thing, you talking about this thing, you claiming to be an activist for this thing, it makes you someone who is now in the position to educate and change the minds of the opposing side.
Stop plastering stuff on your blog about supporting certain causes and then telling people to fuck off and go educate themselves when they ask about it. If you really can’t take constant questions then create an FAQ or even just a page that links all the sources they’ll need to find the information about your cause. Stop making movements look bad by acting like a little brat who knows nothing and just wants to be a part of the bandwagon. Get your shit together if you want to associate with social justice in any way.
i agree with much of this, as i see a lot of hatred for SJWs that’s more a hatred for poor social skills and poor debate skills.
i am not a fan of tone policing and especially not telling harmed and oppressed people to “ask nicely” -quite opposite in fact - but i am a firm believer that the best way to force change is through optimizing social/debate skills. it may not be our responsibility to persuade someone, but it’s also so easy to DISSUADE people by going about arguments the worst way possible that we can end up making matters worse. it’s not a matter of who is right or wrong, or who “should know better” or not, but it’s a matter of the handling and that’s what we have some level of responsibility over.
i don’t think that completely justifies people in choosing to hate social change in general just because of a lot of people with bad people skills annoy them, but i think it’s easy to understand why they would.
but with all that said, i don’t really think that it should be expected that people wouldn’t get tired of repeating the same explanation over and over again, because that does wear very heavily on a person’s heart after a while. you start to lose hope in everyone around you, and feel as useless and powerless as a leaf in a storm. so i think it’s okay for people to shut off from having to continually educate others after so much, because at that point it becomes a defense mechanism to protect their mental health and i can’t begrudge them of that.